Category: Self-growth

Driven by a desire to seek greater meaning, I left the corporate world seven years ago to start a new life. The two significant goals of this life shift were to start the journey of working on my own inner self and to support others in theirs. Although I face new challenges every day, it has been a liberating and rewarding experience.

The last seven years have been rather instructive for me. I have learnt more life lessons during this time than the preceding four decades of my life. Not that I was presented with particularly unique circumstances, but perhaps I was more mindful of learning from them this time around.

As I became a more conscious observer of my own thoughts and actions, I noticed that merely changing my life situation did not automatically alter my long-held beliefs and behavior patterns. If I am an intense person, it didn’t matter whether I was focused on my career in the past or my efforts with meditation or self-improvement now – I always run the risk of being obsessed with my goals.

Seven lessons

Through my ongoing efforts at developing greater self-awareness and from my experiences of working with individuals from diverse backgrounds, I have been learning a number of lessons. Here are the seven themes that stand out.

1. Reflection lays the foundation for positive change

For us to experience any positive change, we need to actively create moments of reflection in our regular life. Ordinarily, in our fast-paced society, it is natural to get consumed in our daily pursuits and lose sight of our bigger life-goals.

Creating regular moments of reflection allows us to become more self-aware, understand our emotional triggers and examine our inner beliefs and motivations. This in turn lays the foundation for positive behavior changes to happen. With persistence, we discover our deeper purpose in life that not only releases energy that gets tied up…

Our spiritual identity is defined by our soul. Not only has this been vividly described by wide-ranging ancient scriptures, but individual experiences of near-death events and of alternate healing techniques like past-life and spiritual regression also reinforce the existence of our spiritual being as a soul.

Our soul is the formless life force, the consciousness, that brings alive our human form. It is also our true essence, our eternal self. As French philosopher Teilhard de Chardin said, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” 

While many of us connect with this realism, rarely do we reflect enough on how souls possibly operate. Every individual soul is bound by its eternal journey to be one with the Supreme soul, the Source of the universal consciousness. However, interestingly, it is only in the physical form of a human body that the soul can progress on that journey.

Stating simplistically, at the time of death, the individual soul leaves the human body and reconnects with the Source. While this provides the soul a comforting homecoming and some sense of being whole again, the soul still carries the karmic imprint of its cumulative existence across various lives. The soul’s recognition of its karmic imperfections and its motivation to continue to purify itself, in line with its eternal goal, leads to its need for rebirth.

Among other possibilities, the soul eventually takes birth in a new body on earth. It is important to emphasize here that every such birth has a special significance and purpose for the soul – the specific aspects of its karmic imprint that it wishes to neutralize and thereby progress in its eternal journey towards merging with the Source.

However, the human life throws up interesting challenges to the soul. The strength of the human brain, coupled with the powerful To continue reading, please click here »

It might have been my upbringing that had sown the seeds of looking down on greed. Growing up in an Indian middle class environment, my childhood lessons were strewn with preaching on hard work, integrity, character and simple living. There was an active bias for quality education and a passive one against engaging in moneymaking activities. It was believed that the latter was connected with greed and that it eventually leads to discontentment.

Focused on curtailing ‘greed’

No wonder then, as I consciously decided, a few years ago, to embark on a journey of personal and spiritual growth, the idea of moderating my greed must have come naturally to me. I subconsciously switched from living with multiple and sometimes never ending ‘wants’ to being more centered around fulfilling important ‘needs’. The idea of constantly upgrading to a bigger house or a bigger car, that I was beginning to get accustomed to, didn’t seem to motivate me any more.

I left a lucrative corporate career, chose to pursue a simpler life and to find greater meaning and make a difference to others started a practice of life coaching. In the process, I turned somewhat idealistic in many of my thoughts and actions and it showed up in small but multiple ways – I moderated my ambitions, cut down on my travels, committed to daily meditation and gave up meat and alcohol.

With disciplined practice of meditation, I became calmer, less competitive, discovered new inner strength and found greater peace. I felt less attached to ambition and success and more grounded in a purposeful journey. I was happier.

Then I discovered ‘aversion’

While life looked great for the most part, I found myself occasionally experiencing sharp anxiety over things that seemed relatively insignificant to others around me. I related to these moments as personal setbacks in my otherwise happy journey of spiritual growth. Of course, being that…

“Diseases of the soul are more dangerous and more numerous than those of the body.” – Cicero, the Roman philosopher

While many of us regularly spend some time taking care of our health, these efforts are usually focused only on our physical well-being. We rarely focus enough on our emotional and mental health and most importantly on our spiritual well-being. Nourishing our soul is arguably the most important agenda we ought to be attending to in human life.

Spiritual well-being

Spiritual well-being is related to our level of self-awareness, clarity about the purpose of our life and a connection with something larger than ourselves. It is about knowing who we are, what our place in this universe is, and the extent of our interconnectedness with the universe. Soul is the part of us that is eternal and connects us with everything else; spiritual growth is fodder for the soul.

Spiritual development dictates gaining clarity on the purpose of our life; and committing to that purpose provides strength to our soul in its own everlasting journey. As the soul gets nourished, its energy reverberates in our physical, mental and emotional state as well. On the one hand, it fills us with peace and calm; on the other, it inspires our mind and body towards meaningful action

An expanded level of self-awareness includes building awareness of the true self – the Self that never dies and is never born, but just takes on different forms. Consciousness of our core being helps dilute our habitual attachment with our ego and guides us towards the principles of letting go, being present in the moment, and maintaining equanimity under all circumstances. Progress in this area gives greater meaning to our life and helps us to be happier, compassionate and feel fulfilled.

It is the key to our human experience…

“People often expect different results from doing the same actions” – Alcoholics Anonymous

Humans are creatures, or more like slaves, of habit. Besides well-ingrained physical habits, we also have deep-rooted mental ones – our attitudes, perceptions and beliefs that involuntarily guide our unique behavior. Our conditioned mental patterns are like our subconscious blueprint and they manifest in our life repeatedly.

As a result, we are prone to, and despite efforts usually find it hard to shake off, anger, fear, aggression, anxiety, envy or low self-esteem. For us to effectively break away from these traits, we need to comprehend what’s behind them.

Understanding karma is important

The notion of our deep-seated mental beliefs can be easily understood by becoming familiar with the concept of karma. It is valuable to grasp this concept to understand the inner mechanics of our thoughts and actions. Only by choosing to deal with our individual karma, can we work on creating a new reality for ourselves.

Karma is the notion of a cyclical process where our every action or intention leads to lasting impressions on our psyche, and these impressions in turn impact our future behavior- comprising fresh intentions and actions- leading to new lasting impressions being formed. Our actions are called karma and the latent impressions they create are termed samskaras.

The law of karma

According to the law of karma, all our motivations as well as experiences in the present are dictated by our cumulative stored samskaras of past actions and reactions. Why, with the same stimulus, some people instinctively get anxious and others don’t, why some children are pre-disposed to an ambitious drive while others to going with the flow and so on, may all be potentially pre-arranged in our karmic psyche.

We are born with this karmicpsyche and with every interaction with our environment, we continue to generate and store additional karma in that psyche. This is how our childhood impressions– of relationships, role of parents, money, success, and…