This New Year, Realise You Are Enough

Being enoughOne of the real sources of stress in our life is the insecurity of not being enough. The subconscious feeling that we are incomplete, that there’s always something out there that would somehow complete us. It dictates much of our dysfunctional thinking. We have an imagination of a perfect self which by the way is a moving target. And falling short of that, or even the prospect of falling short, reinforces this feeling. We worry not only about under-achieving, but also about how poorly others will perceive us then.

Besides, we constantly compare ourselves with others. As there’s always someone more successful, more interesting, healthier, better connected or seemingly happier, we feel less about ourselves. We envy others and judge and criticise ourselves. Some of us tend to lose confidence or become more submissive. Others react to this feeling by becoming more ambitious or aggressive.

But you are already enough

What if you are already enough? Not when you get closer to your perfect self, but how you are right now. Not when you lose weight, get the next promotion or your child gets their dream job, but where your life is at this very instant.

Each of us is a microcosm of this universe. Our essence is the same as the rest of existence but our limited mind is unable to relate to it. Water is the essence of both an ice cube and a cloud, but we perceive each of them very differently. Gold could appear as a necklace, a ring or a bracelet – but that doesn’t change their core.

Our essence is our soul. You can break glass into as many pieces as you like, each of them would still be glass. Likewise, our individual soul is the same as the soul of the universe. And it is complete, whole and enough!

We are unable to experience this truth because of an ignorant and conditioned mind. Societal expectations condition our mind with the idea that we are incomplete unless we make significant progress on expected goals. The ignorant mind gives birth to ego that drives us towards the futile goal of constantly getting ahead of others.

Impact of feeling enough

Connecting with the idea of being enough can be a game changer in how we experience life. We then pursue goals that are meaningful to our inner self, not the ones that merely satisfy our ego. This way, our life is an expression of our innermost self.

Feeling enough doesn’t make us complacent or stifle progress. It is our innate nature to progress. However, we no longer pursue goals from a place of inadequacy, lack or self-centredness. We do from a place of adequacy, abundance and larger good.

Once we embrace the idea of being enough, we realise everyone else is enough too. Even the people we dislike or disapprove of. As a result, we are kinder and more accepting of others. Overall, we are more grateful, content and generous and less anxious, restless and competitive. Besides, this shift automatically moderates our need for excessive growth and consumption (think climate change).

Ideas for cultivating the feeling of being enough

Here are some ideas that I have found helpful:

  • Meditation can help us calm our restless mind, start to see things as they are, be aware when the feelings of insecurity, lack and not being enough arise, and over time explore the truth of our being
  • Practising positive affirmations, such as ‘I am complete, whole and enough’ serve as constant reminders to our psyche
  • Making a gratitude list, and regularly referring to it, strengthens our relationship with what’s working well in our life
  • Practising self-love and self-compassion and choosing forgiveness help heal our emotional wounds and neutralise our tendency to be self-critical
  • Pursuing inner goals, not comparing ourselves with others and being happy in others’ progress affirms our essential self
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COMMENTS

11 Responses to “This New Year, Realise You Are Enough”

  1. Smitha Bhojan says:

    Very true, profound and connecting to our lives.

  2. Dr Balu, SVYM says:

    dear Sri Rajiv Vij,

    Once again it is beautiful. it is beautiful because you have made it simple and straightforward. Thanks for sharing. Each of us resolving this new year, practising and realising this year would not only make us joyful, but also leave behind an enriched planet.

    Your inside out leadership is captivating. Now has become an integral part of my laptop bag for ready reflection time and again.

    Happy new year 2023 in advance to you and your family members!

  3. Dr Balu, SVYM says:

    Dear Rajiv,

    Once again it is beautiful. it is beautiful because you have made it simple and straightforward. Thanks for sharing. Each of us resolving this new year, practising and realising this year would not only make us joyful, but also leave behind an enriched planet.

    Your inside out leadership has become an integral part of my laptop bag for ready reflection time and again.

    Happy new year 2023 in advance to you and your family members!

    • Rajiv Vij says:

      Hello Dr Balu, good to hear from you. Glad the article connected with you and that you continue to find the book helpful. Best wishes for a happy new year to you and your family!

  4. Decuypere Franciska says:

    Very true , getting older helps 😊
    Wish you a deeply happy 2023 !

  5. Anuj says:

    Hi Rajiv, Thank you for a very insightful reminder at the eve of the new year!
    More power to you in 2023!
    Cheers!
    Anuj

  6. Hemanth says:

    Insightful read. Developing this trait is a journey in itself. Thanks for the article.

  7. Rajni says:

    Thank you for reminding me of my power of who I am. It gives me strength.
    Wishing you a Happy New year 2023.
    Rajni

  8. Neeloferr says:

    Nice read. Makes us to examine ourselves on this life journey as to where we stand in self acceptance. I liked the comparison done with water and gold. It made me understand the link of self to the universe.